Archive for April, 2013

Many relationships hit the 7 year mark without any indication of engagement or marriage.

Are women lead to believe that a relationship is meaningless if a guy doesn’t propose?

But Naomi said, “Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands? Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for me—even if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons— would you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? No, my daughters. It is more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord ’s hand has turned against me!” (Ruth 1:11-13 NIV)

In the Bible, book of Ruth, she loses her sons & because her daughter-in-laws are childless, she tells them to leave & find new husbands. Even Ruth herself wishes she could marry again.

Is this the mentality of all women, if we are old & unmarried life is over!?

Society has changed so drastically towards marriage; my boyfriends parents are married & mine… divorced, but I have more pressure for marriage then children; where my boyfriends parents are more for children & don’t seem bothered about marriage.

My boyfriend hasn’t proposed & never will, but I feel as we are unlikely to have children together, marriage is not a necessity. I am personally not keen on children outside of marriage; but relationships change & I could end up with a guy who does she marriage & children in a future with me.

If I were to marry, I am not that keen on changing my surname; so without children, what is the point of marriage?

This seems like a negative post about marriage, but it’s not!

It’s about relationships, and why women feel that if a guy doesn’t propose her relationship isn’t serious & her boyfriend has commitment issues.

“It’s a beautiful night
We’re looking for something dumb to do
Hey baby
I think I wanna marry you”

— Bruno Mars (Marry You)

This is lyrics from a Bruno Mars song… This is probably the mindset of many guys sat in a long term relationship. As little girls we plan our big day; the dress, our hairstyle & everything, but there are not many guys that an their wedding day from a young age.

I wasn’t one of those girls who planned their wedding day, but as my life has transpired I was right. I am not going to marry & am so glad I didn’t plan for disappointment.

Most women don’t get the wedding that they planned anyway; either they can’t afford to or they never get asked, like the old adage “always the bridesmaid, never the bride”.

If women stopped planning for a future & lived for today, would marriage/children/future achievements be such a stress on their lives?
I know women work to their biological clock, as it ticks their life away; but with women having children at later ages & living longer, should we worry about our biological clock?

It is nice to LOVE, but making a relationship more than it is will only destroy the love that you found.

L isten.
O verlook offences.
V alue.
E xpress your love.


Glorious Journey

Posted: April 27, 2013 in Uncategorized

With the Colour Conference over for another year, I am left broke & pondering where God see’s me.

I started this year with rejection from those at Church & now I am scared that God is forcing me back there. I want to & have always wanted to be a Girl of God; fired up to spread the Word of God to the masses, but I am not a speaker/preacher & can never see myself on a platform speaking to a group of 5, let alone a room of millions.

So then… What do I do?

I have literally over the course of last year (2012) & the first few months of this year (2013), poured out my heart & soul. I am planning to never remove those posts that I may regret ever writing, but I need to have my journey documented; I truly think that it is God’s will for people to see someone grow & change before their eyes.

As I rekindle my love affair with Christ, I think anyone that reads this blog should join me, hopefully support me & encourage me. I expect that some people may even ridicule me, judge me, bully me or even hate me; but I guess that will all be a part of this journey. Any comments good or bad, I’ll leave for all to see, because being strong in Christ is not going to be easy.

During a session with Wendy Treat at Colour, she quoted this scripture:

Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. (Ephesians 6:10-15 NIV)

This is where I begin my journey. At the beginning of Colour Conference Bobbie Houston opened by telling us that we are “We are part of a glorious beginning & end. There is a glorious journey within these two bookends of time.” and I am going to take you on this journey with me.

Now as I try to discover & decipher God’s voice to find my path; I already feel lost.
Where do I begin & I know it’s with church, but what church does God want me at?
This is certainly going to be a lot harder than sitting in Wembley Arena listening at a woman’s conference.

Some inspiration for me & those who read this post, from Pastor Nicky Gumbel:

@nickygumbel: Don’t waste time trying to be a second rate version of someone else. Instead, be a first rate version of yourself.