Is it fair for a woman to force a man into marriage?

Posted: April 30, 2013 in Uncategorized
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Many relationships hit the 7 year mark without any indication of engagement or marriage.

Are women lead to believe that a relationship is meaningless if a guy doesn’t propose?

But Naomi said, “Return home, my daughters. Why would you come with me? Am I going to have any more sons, who could become your husbands? Return home, my daughters; I am too old to have another husband. Even if I thought there was still hope for me—even if I had a husband tonight and then gave birth to sons— would you wait until they grew up? Would you remain unmarried for them? No, my daughters. It is more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord ’s hand has turned against me!” (Ruth 1:11-13 NIV)

In the Bible, book of Ruth, she loses her sons & because her daughter-in-laws are childless, she tells them to leave & find new husbands. Even Ruth herself wishes she could marry again.

Is this the mentality of all women, if we are old & unmarried life is over!?

Society has changed so drastically towards marriage; my boyfriends parents are married & mine… divorced, but I have more pressure for marriage then children; where my boyfriends parents are more for children & don’t seem bothered about marriage.

My boyfriend hasn’t proposed & never will, but I feel as we are unlikely to have children together, marriage is not a necessity. I am personally not keen on children outside of marriage; but relationships change & I could end up with a guy who does she marriage & children in a future with me.

If I were to marry, I am not that keen on changing my surname; so without children, what is the point of marriage?

This seems like a negative post about marriage, but it’s not!

It’s about relationships, and why women feel that if a guy doesn’t propose her relationship isn’t serious & her boyfriend has commitment issues.

“It’s a beautiful night
We’re looking for something dumb to do
Hey baby
I think I wanna marry you”

— Bruno Mars (Marry You)

This is lyrics from a Bruno Mars song… This is probably the mindset of many guys sat in a long term relationship. As little girls we plan our big day; the dress, our hairstyle & everything, but there are not many guys that an their wedding day from a young age.

I wasn’t one of those girls who planned their wedding day, but as my life has transpired I was right. I am not going to marry & am so glad I didn’t plan for disappointment.

Most women don’t get the wedding that they planned anyway; either they can’t afford to or they never get asked, like the old adage “always the bridesmaid, never the bride”.

If women stopped planning for a future & lived for today, would marriage/children/future achievements be such a stress on their lives?
I know women work to their biological clock, as it ticks their life away; but with women having children at later ages & living longer, should we worry about our biological clock?

It is nice to LOVE, but making a relationship more than it is will only destroy the love that you found.

L isten.
O verlook offences.
V alue.
E xpress your love.


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